Yet, what is the cost of not letting go? Your hurt can turn into bitterness with contempt, anger, hate and even revenge pulling you deeper into a dark shroud of pain and despair. You carry the heavy burden of past wounds and are held hostage by the wrongs of the past.
"Let us Forgive Each Other - Only then will We Live in Peace"
~ Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy
The act of forgiveness has often been misunderstood. It is not an admission that what happened to you or someone you loved was okay. Forgiveness does not condone the harmful act or make the wrong that happened acceptable. Forgiveness is giving up the belief that the past could or will be different. It is an acceptance that what happened did happen and cannot be changed. The act of forgiveness releases you from the toxicity of hurtful and destructive emotional baggage, which captures and poisons your mind. Holding on to resentment not only inflicts more anguish and suffering onto your initial injury, it actually magnifies the pain you feel. It does not empower you nor does it right the wrong nor does it change the one that caused the harm.
True power comes from the act of forgiving. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself not for the one that caused the harm. The glorious benefit is that it also releases the grip on the offender, which allows deeper and often miraculous healing to occur. You want acknowledgment of your pain, so offer it to yourself. You may never receive the acknowledgment from the one that offended you. Bring your grievances into your awareness and have compassion for the pain you have endured. You have experienced a deep loss. Allow yourself to really grieve the loss. There is a part of you that has been lost and must be retrieved. Your innocent trusting nature has been wounded. Release emotion that has been bottled up and smoldering beneath the surface. Nursing animosity induces stress and research shows that ruminating on negative feelings impairs your heart leading to earlier death. Forgive yourself for holding on to hurtful thoughts. Regain trust in your own ability to heal. Your body will be liberated from the rigid tension that separation from your true nature brings.
“When You’re Sure You’ve Had Enough
of this Life, well Hang On
Don’t Let Yourself Go
Cause Everybody Cries
And Everybody Hurts Sometimes”
“Forgiving is the Capacity to Bend from a Rigid Conditional Stance and Freely Move Toward and Offer Heartfelt Compassion to All"